Following is a view of life we all could use, as written by a friend, colleague and Design-Your-Life tribe mate, Karen.
We’re here to make a difference. To leave things better than we found them. We’re here to grow and to nurture; to love and be loved; to be awed by the beauty, majesty, and power of this life and this world.
We bring meaning through connection, through creation, through effort, through building something or helping someone. Connection and service is how we integrate to the whole. We should aim our efforts at improving the common good, not at achieving personal gain.
Family informs our heart and our standards, and nurtures our growth and development. It helps establish and inform our character and ambitions; it gives us the currency we use for valuing ourselves and our world. Our family provides a kind of measuring stick we use to evaluate right and wrong, people, motives, and intention.
Country gives us our broader community and identity. At its best it can support us, inspire us, and require us to be our best. At its worse it can propagate toxicity and cause better men to abandon their principles. Our family helps make the type of seed we are. Our country and spiritual/transcendent believes become the field in which this seed thrives or withers.
Good is empathy, compassion, doing the right thing not for the reward, but because it’s the right thing. Evil is greed, ego vs others, doing things for personal gain without concern for the greater consequences to others or our world.
Joy is a lofty and elusive experience; fleeting and seductive. We chase it, revel in it, and miss it when it leaves us. Hopefully joy teaches us gratitude and how to be in the moment; that giving creates joy for the giver; not just the receiver; that one can find delight in the smallest thing. Its Grace experienced.
Sorrow is a searing loss. Joy ripped away. It can come from death, mistreatment, confusion, abuse, or unthinkable behavior against another or our earth. It can and will make your heart break and make you feel helpless and hopeless.
Justice is a principle of action/consequence that often exists more in theory than in practice. For me it’s a need for things to be how they should be instead of what they really are. It will elude you and delude you by its absence.
Love is warmth, connection, acceptance, forgiveness, and unconditional. It’s a sweet balm that when present can heal anything, and when absent, knows no cure. It’s our Holy Grail as human beings.
Peace vs strife is about the fundamental choice to align for a greater, non-selfish benefit rather than a need to win, to come out on top; to agree to disagree and embrace our differences while cherishing our sameness.